Guessing Game

Is he getting enough sleep? Is he sleeping too much? Does he get enough to eat at each feeding? Am I being too impatient with him? Is he too hot? Too cold? Do I put him down to sleep too soon? Am I spending enough time with him when he's awake? Should I be reading to him more? Does he eat too fast? Is he burping enough? Are my expectations of myself too high? Is his breathing too shallow? What about that wheezy sound he makes when he eats? Is he pooping too much? Is he overstimulated? Overtired? Am I eating the right things? Is he gaining enough weight? What should I do about  that rash on the back of his neck? Should I give him a bath? Does his head get enough support? Does the car seat pinch his leg? Do I smile at him enough? Talk to him enough? Should I sing to him more? Is the music too loud? Am I worrying too much? Am I good enough?

Comments

[Chase]

Looks like you're doing a damn good job to me, mom. Beautiful family! :)

On another note: are those bruises on your arms??

[Chris]

Perfectly normal questions!! Practice makes perfect. :)

[madge]

Welcome to motherhood!

The subject matter will change but the questions will always be there.

[madge]

Also, NICE TA-TAs!

[Arabella]

I hear ya, babe! It looks to me like you're doing great, though.

Could he have a "stork bite"? It looks like a rash on the back of the neck. My kids have them; the pediatrician said that they're harmless and will fade over time. It probably pays to ask Myles's doctor so she/he can reassure you.

[TB]

Chase - Those were leftover from my IVs and blood draws in the hospital... don't worry, Jeff's not beating me :o)

Chris - Thanks

Arabella - You are a wise, wise mommy. I just got back from a ped. appt and that's exactly what it is. He has one on the top of his head too.

[Heather]

Wow what a cutie, and yes, you're more than good enough. Love the pics.

[Wendy]

The name of the game - the fact that you are worrying about all this means you are a normal mom! I have never been filled with more indecisiveness and anxiety than those first few months after my son was born. For the record, your son is gorgeous by the way - that first picture - oh my god - the face! What a cutiepie! You look fab, Teebs - what a beautiful family!

[Meghan]

You do eventually get to a place where you feel like you actually know what you are doing.
The beginning is hard because they are limited in what they can communicate. It gets easier. And if he's warm and fed and held and loved (and I knwo he is), then you are doing a terrific job.

[Ortizzle]

I'm guessing that those are normal new mom questions, LOL. You must be doing the right things, though, because he sure looks cute and healthy. :-)))

[jill]

Hi there,

Delurking to tell you that there are cute babies and then there are CUTE BABIES!. You possess the later, and I'm so happy for you! In general. That you have a baby. Not just that he's really, really adorable.

[the new girl]

The Little Sister and I laughed hard about this for the first couple months of her son's life. Every time he would whimper, we'd be like:
maybe he's too hot
maybe he's too cold
maybe there's too much light
maybe he's hungry
maybe his clothes itch...
I expect to be doing the same things in a month or so...

[V-Grrrl]

My son, a preemie, was easily overstimulated--especially by noise. Took me a month or so to figure that out.

My daughter had (has) delicate skin and needed to be changed the second her diaper was soiled. She also had a tendency to get cold at night, something that took me a while to figure out as well. I learned to put her to bed in a hooded fleece sack with mittens at night!

Hang in there. You're both getting to know one another!

[mdog]

love it. if the time ever comes, that will totally be me:

"???.....??????....?????????"

good enough? no one could be a better mom for myles. :D

[Susan]

Oh my goodness, he is heartbreakingly adoreable. In that picture he has such a calm, intelligent look. His little face reminds me so much of my first granddaughter. Please try to relax and enjoy it. He's not crying alot is he? If he is the patience part is good. Your time with him at every interesting stage will be so short. Sounds like you two have a great system and everything is taken care of. Babies are remarkably resilient and not easily breakable. Take care and enjoy, enjoy, enjoy.

[Holly]

Um, Teebs, you're a new mom and you have time to blog? I'd say you're doing a WONDERFUL job! I remember that first week home from the hospital. My house was full of people and I just sat down at the kitchen table and cried. I just KNEW I was doing everything wrong. Thank goodness it was just the baby blues talking and I was able to get over that. You're doing a GREAT JOB!!
Oh, and he's just a CUTIE!! And looks a lot like you, I think!

[Tink]

And from this moment on you will never be quite sure of another thing again! ;)

You're doing great. Happy Belated Mother's Day. ((HUG))

[Mom101]

this chorus is far too familiar - but I think you've got your answers right in those photos.

[wordgirl]

I don't want to oversimplify your questions by giving you a pat attempt at comfort. However, you sound normal to me...only because you sound just the way I did.

[stella]

are your boobs big enough?

thats the real question.

you'll do fine. you guys look so cute!!!!

[Suebob]

You are doing great.

What a cute little peanut!

[Lizzie]

Errr...yes,yes, yes, no, no, yes, no, may-bee...

I keed...don't you dare try and match those up!

You're totally normal, deal with it, sweetie!

[Christen]

I am so with you. I ask the same questions routinely. Nice to know I'm not alone.

[Nancy]

What a great picture. It's nice to see the family all together.

And I agree with Madge -- nice bazoombas, momma! (You're really filling out that dress well!)

[Nancy]

p.s., you are definitely, DEFINITELY a good enough mom. It just shines through in your writing and in the pictures.